He also oozed sweetness. I never noticed that homesickness
other puppies showed after coming to my house. Right away I became his
security. On his first visit to the vet’s office, he seemed nervous with all
those big dogs, all those strangers. I picked him up and set him on my lap,
and, immediately, he settled calmly on my lap, watching the world go by from
the safety of Mom’s arms. Jenni, the then-two-and-a-half-year-old border collie
we still have, took on the task of raising him. Henry the cat became his buddy.
Life was good…..
From the first, though, he was an anomaly in his litter.
Frankly, he was a little porker, and he just kept growing. Now, less than a
year and a half old, he is 60 pounds, 24 inches at the shoulder, and he is not
overweight at all. His mother and father both are a trim 45 pounds. (Jenni is a
petite girl—in the mid-thirties pounds range. Whisper walked UNDER her when he
first got here; now he can almost step over her). Probably this size led to him needing OCD
shoulder surgery at six months old, missing his graduation from puppy
class. This necessary surgery fixed his
shoulder issues, but keeping a border collie puppy “still” for six weeks? Yikes…….
I had foot surgery a few months after that, and he was,
literally, by my side almost all the time.
I have pictures of my foot propped on the back of the couch, a
beautiful, sleeping dog resting his head above the bandages. He is “my” dog.
We took another beginning class, teaching basic obedience,
and it started…… Suddenly, he did not want dogs close to him. He got downright, um, aggressive. What? He is now
getting aggressive towards strange humans, as well. I have worked with a
trainer, who, bless her, does not take it personally when the dog nips her. I,
of course, am mortified.
This is not a dog who has been abused; this is not a dog who
has been deprived, who has been afraid in his environment…..he has worked sheep
and been fine….suddenly, he has just lost his mind.
And, to be completely shallow and off-the-point, it’s
embarrassing. I am, after all, known for training dogs. Sweet Millie came as a
terribly-behaved rescue and got TWO CGC certificates (she could forget she was
a good citizen in early days) and certified as a therapy AND service dog. A man
said to me one time in a store, “You have those smart dogs.”
And sweet. Very, very sweet…….
We went to the vet for Whisper's yearly visit, and in lieu of him
eating someone, I was asked to muzzle him, though the tech thought we might
have to sedate him. This was my sweet pup who will let me do ANYTHING to him—including
put on a muzzle. Inside, he was much calmer (albeit distracted by this thing on
his face), and to ward off his protective instincts regarding me, they took him
“to the back” to see if he was better without me.
He was, and, had an entire exam, all his shots, and was “very
sweet,” except he peed all the time. The vet thinks it is fear aggression….. But, afraid of what?
I take him out and work with him. “Watch me!” and “heel” and
“sit!” and “Watch me!” He is perfect…….till someone gets inside that invisible
line he has drawn around us. We do tricks--Whisper saying prayers is about as cute as you will ever see. I do think there is a sense of protection of me in
his actions. But, he also seems to go somewhere else in his head. That border collie concentration can make it
hard to distract him.
This is a dog we walk in the woods and fields off lead and
who will ALWAYS come when called. This is a dog who never does not know where I
am if I am anywhere he can find me. This is a dog who adores Jenni, my husband,
my grown son, even letting the cat rub against him….. He is annoyingly sweet.
And, suddenly, Cujo emerges.
It could be something that happened in his little head after
the OCD surgery….
It could be my not being able to work him as much around
other dogs when I had my own surgery.
It could be age and brain chemicals.
It could be all or none. I contacted his breeder, and she
assured me none of the other puppies had these issues. I believe her…..he is,
as I said, an anomaly. She is a responsible breeder.
But, I’ll tell you this….tell a lot of people who train dogs
for a living that you have a 60 pound, newly aggressive puppy, and a lot of
what you get is, “Let me give you the name of this trainer…..vet…..man I know…..woman
who works with aggressive dogs.”
I was fortunate to find someone at all who would help.
After going through a term of at least six degrees of
separation (and I don’t blame people—it’s a scary thing), I was referred to the
vet school’s behavior unit. Our first appointment is this week. The trainer who HAS helped us is willing to
talk with them if they want her to: she LIKES him, when he’s not going to his
crazy place.
So, why share this? Because, I know that sometimes other
people get a dog and feel as I do—I love this pup who
adores me. But, suddenly (and though he could be nervous early on, this aggressive stuff has NOT been long term) that dog exhibits a new, very worrisome behavior (meet Cujo). I want him to NOT be that upset and worried; I want him to be able to trust me to take care of him, and not feel so
protective. I want him to learn he does
not have to LIKE other dogs and people, but he does have to tolerate them. And, for the first time in my working with
dogs, I am out of my depth. As
upset as this whole thing makes me (my Whisper!), I hope that sharing it will
somehow help someone else.
I’ll let you know…….
Thank you for your bravery in posting. Many people, including some very good trainers and behaviorists, find themselves in similar situations, so you are not alone. The brain is a complicated organ and there is much we've discovered, but much we still don't know. I'm convinced that many species share certain dysfunctions of the brain that express in aggressive behaviors. I do wonder about the resource guarding aspect of this, because your dog was able to be civil to his care givers when taken "out back." Perhaps give it a try working on that, and don't be afraid to supplement with medication if you need to. Do anything to keep your dog, people, and other dogs, safe. Much luck, and please follow up - many of us are rooting for you!
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your story! I myself am in the course of writing my "life story" with my dog-reactive dog. I was told by the foster home that she was "great" with other dogs, and she loved my dog when we brought him to meet her, so we thought she was fine. Not so much......
ReplyDeleteThat being said, this sounds a LOT like a Maltese I worked with. She was "fine" in another trainer's puppy class, though she would occasionally get "just a little bit nervous" in certain situations. When the dog was about 6 months, the owner became very ill and had to have in-home medical care. The dog never left her side and became "protective" of her owner to the point that she couldn't even hug a friend and by the time she could walk the dog again, walks were an absolute nightmare!
From everything I could see, it was possessiveness, not protectiveness, coupled with fear-based aggression. We tried using Differential Counter Conditioning and BAT techniques with very little improvement, but what worked almost like magic was Abandonment Training (see #4 in the linked article):
https://www.patriciamcconnell.com/theotherendoftheleash/dog-dog-reactivity-treatment-summary
Hopefully that link helps you and your behaviorist in finding a technique that works!
Thank you for the link; I agree with his "lots of tools in the toolbox" phrase. Even if I never use all the "tools" I have been told about, knowledge really is power--or at least the ability to not just sit and cry over your dog!
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